Pandarific!!

Have you heard the song 'How to save a life' by the fray? I read the lyrics carefully and realized there's not much content to the song cause it's a little bit hanging and it really doesn't help you to save a friends life, preferbly if you were the one being saved you better pray your friend didn't take advice from this song. When you first hear the song it says:

okok then it goes to the chorus, let's skip that for awhile then go to the next verse:

--So at this point you might be saying to yourself "ok, i guess those are kinda like the stuff i normally do" now let's go to the last verse:

---honestly to me, if you're trying to save your friends life, it's better not to raise your voice/loose your temper because you're the one that's supposed to be thinking straight right? but when you're mad your thoughts are normally jumbled, so i wouldn't recommend anyone to follow that piece of advice. And frankly, giving you friend two definately choices to make in a life crisis would really make someone feel captured and owned by you, more like you're their master.

Now finaly the lyrics:


---where did i go wrong match it with had i known how to save a life, and you get the answer, tadah! controvertial? totally. Yup, and the lyrics just repeats itself over and over again. This really reminds me of that poem we studied for SPM where the writer says he's over the girl but is contradicting himself in the poem by being obviously in denial. In relation to the poem and song, the song writer sounds like, well actually it's obvious that he was absolutely clueless on how to help a friend and in the end, well he lost that friend. And he thought he knew how to save that friend.

This post is not to flame the song, no no, actually seeing this song reminded me of the international students camp i went to, and how i experienced a totally new environment. I was used to camps having a huge list of rules and games where groups compete against each other. But no, in this camp, we just had a simple rule, listen to the leaders and when the hand is up, just keep quiet, and guess what it worked. It worked for a group of youths from 10 diff countries speaking diff languages. You try to unite diff nations and tell me how hard that is, but this simple and soft method worked neveraless. We also had groups, first i thought "oh great, we're all gonna have to be forced to compete against each other" but it turned out that the games were for fun (yea, i know,this may sound shocking to some experienced campers) and to teach you simple lessons. I had the time of my life! and without the stress of having to gain points, we all still worked well as a group.

Next is the love and forgiveness i felt during the camp. I kinda broke this lady's 20 year old blending machine which she had earlier said never failed her. I was sweating and worrying like crazy on how i broke a strangers prized blender. I thought she would kill me and skin me alive. i was really that worried because back home i would have gotten the scolding of my life. But the surprising thing was, she was totally NOT mad, and she was saying all the time "Don't worry, don't worry, i'm not going to kill you for this" (she really said that).

Now to relate the song and these situations, i was thinking what if everyone was more relaxed and forgiving to everyone else, and they would not always try to force you to do something, they'll let you do it out of your own will. What if people didn't get mad automatically when something went wrong, instead they would ask YOU if you were ok, if you were hurt or anything. If everyone was like that all the time, i don't think people would want to kill themselves because then they would feel loved. i think everyone in the world is looking for some love.

I did think to myself "How can i be more like these people? how can i not get angry at people for doing something that would make me angry but instead learn to care for them" this is totally the opposite of what the song said "Lay down a list of what is wrong The things you've told him all along" i feel like, if you do that it's like telling the person, see this is what you've done wrong, and i absolutely warned you about it. It honestly wouldn't make me feel better, it would make me feel like a complete idiot and want to kill myself more. But what if we said "Hey it's ok, we all make mistakes, it's not the end of the world right? the sky's still hanging up there, and you're still alive." Well something like that i guess. PS: i still haven't come up with the solution or the method to the question i asked myself see.

So yea, i think giving a person love is how to save a life, wether or not that life is at the edge of being lost or that life is still living a normal life.